Etiquette, Lists and Printables

Micro Lessons in Etiquette #3: Thank You Notes

Wow! This little area of social graces has changed without me noticing…

Over ten years ago (while I was raising babies I missed this!) it became acceptable to TEXT, EMAIL, OR CALL (and just leave a voicemail!) in place of a handwritten thank you note!!!! This is easy! I am so happy!!!

The process of writing a handwritten note is one that I used to enjoy but now it really stresses me out (which is why I have failed to do it 😳). I still to this day feel guilty for not writing more of these messages of gratitude. But modern etiquette to the rescue!!!

I feel a very unusual sensation — if it is not indigestion, I think it must be Gratitude.

Benjamin Disraeli

In the past, the only acceptable means of thanking someone was in person or via a handwritten note. Period. Exclamation point!

Today – in a world where millennials are blamed for not taking the time to thank people by any method – the rules are changing to encourage any means of kindness.

‼️But beware (or be aware 🤨) that the gesture of a handwritten note is still used and expected by many. This practice is also very much appreciated in the business world.

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Micro Lessons in Etiquette #2: How to Address Envelopes (basic)

Weddings, Holiday Cards, Family Reunions, and other formal mailings all have one thing in common… You need to find out cousin Ana’s new address! And you need to know how to address the envelope. This is one that most people get wrong and I’m not sure it matters UNLESS the person receiving the envelope is offended (in which case, it mattered😬!).

“You can be hurt, not by what others think of you, but by what you think of what they think or you think they think of you.”😆

Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Modern etiquette on this continues to change. If you are concerned about how to address your envelopes, I did a little research on if the man or woman’s name goes first on today’s envelopes. In one area I found clear answers: addressing married couples. Here is a quick tutorial on how etiquette dictates addressing married couples:

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Micro Lessons in Etiquette #1: Dining Room

When I was growing up, my grandmother had a store with an entire wing of the shop devoted to china and crystal patterns. I learned what each plate was meant to serve and which glass to use. She knew everything about etiquette. Most of the lessons in manners I learned from my mother who learned them from my grandmother. The rest I learned from reading books by Emily Post.

“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”

Emily Post

Manners are a form of respect for others. With that in mind, I am also aware that etiquette has changed in recent years. This is where it gets complicated. While many social graces are respectful, some can now appear sexist, rude, or ignorant.

The first change in etiquette that comes to mind is in a formal dining environment. What do you do when someone approaches the table? Does everyone stand to greet them or do women stay seated? When I was young, men stood up or half stood (called mock stand) when a woman left and returned to the table. Is this still a thing? I did some research and here is my answer to those questions:

It’s interesting what has changed and what hasn’t. There is a shift towards equality between men and women in terms of greeting business associates or acquaintances approaching the table. Meanwhile, there is still the traditional gesture by men towards women of standing when a woman leaves or returns to their table.

I am intrigued by what else is new or different! Micro Lessons in Etiquette might be my calling 😂